No doubt you’ve read dozens of articles on how to develop healthy relationships with other people. Yet, we don’t see many that talk about how to work at improving your connection to yourself. Being yourself means knowing yourself. So, getting to know you is quite important.
“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
The irony is that no other relationship is as vital to your health as the one you have with yourself. You may not be aware of it, but this relationship dictates everything in your life. It shapes the way you manage relationships, your biological wellness, connection to your spirituality and your cognitive connections as well.
Yep, it's significant.
Let’s dive in.
5 Ways to Improve Your Connection to Yourself
So, how do you go about improving your connection to yourself?
Well, you begin by taking your beliefs, feelings, and goals seriously. Then, you have to realize that your imperfections and strengths are two sides of the same coin. They coexist to make up the person you are today.
It’s important to remember that no one in the world knows what it’s like to be you. This is why you have to be your own best friend. Learn to show yourself empathy and self-compassion.
To boost your self-worth, start with these five techniques.
Understand Your Likes & Dislikes
Knowing what you like and don’t like is the definition of self-acceptance. It also means that you don’t change the way you live or the way you do certain things to please other people. Allow yourself to be truly seen for who you are—good and bad.
That can be hard at times. Our society conditions us to live by other people’s rules is the only way to fit in and be accepted. You are the most important person that needs to accept who and what you are.
Realizing that we’re all different means accepting your individuality. Understanding your likes and dislikes is a big part of that.
Once you know those, then you can do so much more of what makes you happy. Freely, uninhibited and in peace.
Why can be our own worst enemies? We constantly criticize, prick, and prod at our imperfections without mercy.
Our weight usually tops the list. But there are other things we obsess over as well, like our worthiness, love-ability, physical traits and quirky habits.
Why not try something different for a change? The next time you look in the mirror, find one thing you appreciate about yourself. Praise yourself and show gratitude for them.
We’re not saying this will be easy. In fact, you may not even think of anything, in the beginning, to be thankful for.
Don’t be surprised, you’re not alone. Almost nine times out of ten, your eye will automatically fall on the features you don’t like about yourself.
As awkward as it feels, everyday effort here will unveil the awesome, uniqueness that is you. You’ll soon be able to make a list of all those things that make you beautiful and amazing.
What about those other things you don’t like? Learn to accept them. They’re still part of what makes you the special and unique person you are.
Listen To Yourself
You know it. It's your intuition, your little voice. When something feels off, pay attention to what your gut is telling you. Even if it’s difficult, uncomfortable, or goes against what others are telling you.
Let yourself feel and get comfortable with your emotions and beliefs. When you listen to what your body and gut are telling you, you’ll feel inner peace and a sense of belonging.
After a while, you’ll get better at understanding your body’s cues and signals. This connection to yourself inside & out is powerful.
Good Vibes & Habits
Setting up healthy habits is a key. Right here, fundamental to improve your relationship with yourself. Start from when you first wake up in the morning. A morning routine can really change the game overall and if you are feeling bold, an evening routine as well.
These foundations set you up for an amazing healthy vibration body/mind/soul all day:
Write down positive affirmations & mantras
Exercise regular, functional & purposeful movement
Actively plan healthy, well-nourishing meals
Practice mindful meditation
Smile more laugh, play, be joyful!
Attitude Is Altitude
Many of us have an all-or-nothing attitude. We decide to do something then as soon as we start to fall back, we call it quits! We're better than that!
Perfectionism actually leads to depression. It gets you in this vicious cycle of self-blame and negativity, which can lead you to a dark, lonely place.
To avoid this toxic cycle, begin by accepting you’re not perfect. You will mess up and your day won’t always go the way you planned it. That’s okay.
Let’s say you set up a goal of going to the gym five times a week for an hour. The first week goes as you planned, but the second week, you miss a day (or two!)
You can do one of two things: call the whole thing off or you can pick up where you left off. If, by week three, you feel that five days is too much, tone it down a bit. Maybe go for half an hour instead of a full 60 minutes. Flex, flow ... just don't give in.
This applies to your diet, sleep, meditation, work and so much more. Show yourself love and encouragement and bottom line, do the work. Everything else will follow through, you feel better and vibe higher!
Strengthen your sense of self, esteem, confidence & awareness. It’s one of the best ways to develop a healthy relationship with yourself and, ultimately, with others. Each of the five techniques may be simple but not always easy. Give them the time and attention and they will blossom, improving your connection to yourself. This is how take those steps to Own Your Awesome everyday.
By practicing them daily, they can boost our self-confidence and help us stay grounded. As a result, we’re able to form a strong, wildly well connection to ourselves. Only then can we start living in alignment with who we truly are.