“Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life.” (Proverbs 13:12).
Hope deferred; delays in obtaining that good which a man passionately desireth and hopeth for. The desire; the good desired and expected; acts being oft put for the objects, It is a tree of life; it is most sweet, and satisfactory, and reviving. The “tree of life” connects wisdom and happiness.
“Wisdom is a tree of life to those who embrace her; happy are those who hold her tightly.” (Proverbs 3:18)
But some people rise to meet uncertain times with hope and resilience. Developing such attitudes to be successful in the face of life’s ups and downs.
Most faith’s place a high value on hope. Along with faith and love, hope is one of the three basic virtues in Christianity and woven throughout religion. Biblical hope is defined as a strong and confident expectancy of something better. For its part, hope is generated by faith – as is the other way around. Inextricably connected are faith and hope. It’s a win-win situation. If we lack faith, we cannot reach hope. In the absence of hope, our faith will be very faint, imprecise, and susceptible to leaning toward the direction of society.
We pull from strategies that most of us inherently rely on to contend with uncertainty that tend to be self-defeating. When we face an uncertain future we often resort to feeling anxious, worrying, complaining, or being negative about events that may never occur.
What does having hope mean?
Think of how you handle difficult situations. Do you offer platitudes like, “I hope everything will work out?:" This is often just a way of disengaging or checking out of a difficult situation. A broad brush waving of the responsibility of thought, feeling or actions off to another time or place.
True hope comes from a source much deeper, your core. At your core, there are vital qualities that help to determine how much hope you yourself feel, as well as what you can offer to others. Hope is an essential key in facing any type of uncertainty that may arise in your life.
Hope’s Primary Qualities
Strength – You draw from inner strength to tap into your personal powers.
Resilience – You bounce back when faced with setbacks and obstacles.
Optimism – You stay positive despite the challenges ahead of you.
These are the antithesis of pessimism, complaining, and worry. Rather than be self-defeatist, you can be strong, resilient, and optimistic, and in this way improve your self-esteem.
Hope is essential for handling a crisis but it can also serve as your core value on a daily basis. Uncertainty can arrive at any time, whether it appears in a personal issue, a business issue, a national event, or a global event. The situation doesn’t even necessarily need to be negative. It could be the uncertainty and excitement of creating, changing or exploring something new.
Let’s take a closer look at these qualities and what they may mean to you.
Most of us are all too willing to give away our power. Yet, what could be a more hopeless situation than being without power? This can happen in both business and personal relationships. You can find yourself going along with something you disagree with simply because you don’t have the strength or power to speak up.
Retaining power means that you can stand up for yourself, that you can overcome resistance, that you can turn a catastrophe into an opportunity. True strength is in the core of your being. It’s a quiet calm that isn’t disturbed by events or the turmoil of emotions.
Inner strength established self-power that will anchor, uplift, and encourage you.
We often see the elderly celebrated in the media for reaching 100. They are always happy to share the secret to their long life. They all have different secrets, from a cigarette and a glass of whiskey every day, to weekly efforts of exercise, focus or self responsibility. Lifestyle both inner and outer habits with consistency are often the key!
The truth is that they didn’t win the gene pool lottery, nor were they immune to the woes of life. They were resilient. They faced hard times and bounced back, took things in stride, adapted and lived their lives. Being resilient is the true secret to avoiding victim-hood.
It isn’t just about positive thinking. When we’re faced with sadness, it’s healthy to deal with sadness; when we lose a loved one, grief is natural.
Resilience and overcoming adversity comes from a strong sense of self.
Society has taught us that life is difficult, that struggling is the norm. Society wants us to believe that the safest place for us is behind a wall. In this environment, optimism seems foolish and unrealistic. Yet, when we meet people who are truly optimistic, we are jealous or envious of their joy. Attitudes of pessimism, skepticism, and cynicism come from fear and distrust.
Getting ourselves out of the way and removing our learned resistance, life can take care of itself, that’s the attitude of optimism.
Using our intuition and intelligence, we can develop and experience inner peace. Finding hope in uncertain times is easier than you think, it’s within you. It's always within you. Take a moment to slow it down, come from the heart of the matter and allow it to be.